When it comes to being in a relationship, there are few things more important than commitment. Yes, love is at the heart of the relationship (of course), and trust is imperative, but when the going gets tough, it is the resolve to stay committed that is what really matters. Whether married or not, if there is no commitment, the relationship stands on rocky ground. Whether in love or not, if there is no commitment, a blip in the relationship can undermine the feelings you have for each other. There is a need to commit; to promise to stick together through thick and thin; to make the relationship work, whatever life throws at you.
With commitment…
– Trust and intimacy will grow. You will work together and become stronger as a result. Hard times can be overcome, and the relationship can be revived because neither of you are willing to give up the fight.
Without commitment…
– Your relationship is weakened. You will lose trust in each other, especially when problems arise. One or both of you may do something that derails the relationship further, and there will be no real effort made trying to put things right again.
Of course, not every relationship will work. Love does not always develop, and circumstances can change. You don’t need to commit to something that clearly isn’t going to work. However…
If your relationship is worth sticking with…
If you are truly are in love…
If both of your needs are being met…
Then you need to stay committed throughout the relationship, from love’s blossoming beginnings, through the rocky patches when that love is stretched, and relations become frayed. Commitment will get you back on track again, and you will both grow as a result.
Now, we are talking in the abstract a little. You probably agree that commitment is crucial to a relationship, but what can you do in practice? Well, there are two things you can do for starters.
- Make a commitment plan, something that outlines what you will do in times of hardship. Work on it together and then sign it, further signifying the seriousness of the commitment you are making to each other. This might include the promise to block certain things from your life if they get in the way of your relationship, and the resolve to take further action, such as seeking counselling, should the relationship become strained.
- Provide a physical reminder of the bond you have together; something that displays the commitment you want to show. A popular way of doing this is by wearing a ring. You would do this when you get married, but you can still wear one of the best silicone rings (other materials are available) whatever your relationship status. When trouble does arise, that physical object you choose can remind you of the promises you made to each other at the beginning.
So, in closing, let’s be honest for a second. Too many relationships break down because of the lack of commitment shown. It’s easier than ever to divorce – you can even do it online – and this is a shame. If you are in love, the relationship is worth sticking with. Sit down with your partner and talk to them. Give love a chance, and make that commitment plan to give your relationship a fighting chance to succeed. It’s about making a promise to each other; that no matter what happens, if love remains, you will work together to make things work. You will both be glad that you did.
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