Have you been waiting to meet and marry the right person to spend your life with? We all want good companionship. I know from experience that waiting until the right man appears (and not settling for the first man who appears) can be tough. However, experiencing the reward of a lifetime of love with the right mate will be worth the wait!
You may be unmarried and “alone” at the moment, but you do not have to be lonely. If you are single right now, you don’t have feel unfulfilled. No matter how long it has been since you first desired your mate, be encouraged. You are closer now than you have ever been. In my book, Love Without The Drama, I ask the question, “Why settle when relationships can sizzle?” Though your wait may seem long, please do not rush and settle. Take note: All good things, including relationships, take time.
Like cooking, love has preparation time and a process before it’s ready to be enjoyed. Even when they are marinated, the best meats, like steak, are not very tasty and come out tough when cooked super fast in the microwave. On the contrary, sautéed, slow-cooked, oven-broiled, or charcoal-grilled steak is so-o-o delicious and tender. So, if it feels like you’ve been waiting a long time for love to manifest, just remember that like steak, your forthcoming love is getting better with time. Soon it will be ready to serve!
Wipe your tears and hold on to your heart as I share with you what you can do while you’re waiting for the love of your life to find you. Chapter Seven of Love Without The Drama is “Wisdom For The Single And Seeking.” I’m happy to share three servings of wisdom for the single and seeking with you!…
1. Pursue Your Purpose As You Prepare For Marriage.
Be very passionate about life while you are living single. What are your goals and dreams? It is healthy to pursue your individual purpose while you are waiting to marry. There is a Chinese proverb that says, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” What steps are you taking now toward fulfilling your dreams and goals so that you can see them manifest in your future?
Learn to love yourself before you invest all of your time loving someone else. Your single season is the time to enjoy life, so go out and explore the world! You do not have to wait until you get married to become adventurous. Go on a cruise or other vacation, purchase your own home and car or SUV. Obtain higher education, apply for your dream job, or move to another city. Write a book, record a CD, or start a new business. Whatever your dream is, pursue it NOW!
Don’t let opportunities pass you by because you don’t expect anything great before marriage. Single women listen. Prior to marriage and without a man’s help I earned Bachelor’s and Master’s degrees, purchased a brand new home and car, plus started my own business. You can do it, too! Don’t worry. Owning your dreams and achieving goals as a single woman does not communicate that you do not want a man’s companionship. It shows that you are confident! This increases your chances of meeting a man who is not lazy, but striving for and achieving excellence in his life, too. Your positive energy will likely attract an ambitious man to you!
2. Be What You Want To Receive In Your Dream Mate.
A woman’s words, actions, attitudes and expectations indirectly teach others how to treat her. Conduct yourself like you want him to treat you. If you want a man of integrity, be a virtuous woman. If you want him to respect you, be respectable. If you want a loving and forgiving man, be that yourself. If you want to have a king, you should be a queen. If your mate is your mirror, what will he look like? Ultimately, you attract what you are.
If you keep attracting the wrong type of men, you may need to take a deeper look into yourself. If you have been disappointed in who you have attracted in the past, you may need to examine what kind of vibes are radiating from you. For example, if most men you meet expect sex with no commitment, realize that dressing very provocative can nonverbally communicate that all you want is sex, too. Are you wearing your emotions on your sleeve? If so, men can detect your hurt and deceptive men may aim to make you their next target of an emotional game. Changing your presentation can change your life!
3. You Don’t Have To Be A Desperately Seeking Single.
When I was an anxious single woman I read a proverb in the Bible, Proverbs 24:27, that helped me focus and get my future in perspective. It read, “Put first things first. Prepare your work outside and get it ready for yourself in the field; and afterward build your house and establish a home.” Its relevance to my life amazed me! Prepare myself as an individual first–go to college, establish my career–and after I do that then I will build a physical house and establish a home (a sizzling, loving marriage).
Finally, I had a clear direction. I no longer had to be anxious about what to do with my life until got married. If I busied myself with striving for these goals before marriage, I would not have time to be a desperately seeking single. In addition, I would have something to offer the man of my dreams. Therefore, I would become a moving target for Mr. Right to chase!
Even though you are currently single, it is wise to prepare now so that your future marriage can sizzle. If you rush and choose to marry the wrong person–perhaps because of lust, low self-esteem, and unwillingness to “wait for the promise” or under the influence of peer, societal or family pressure, emotional hurt, frustration, revenge–you will eventually experience severe pain. In case life has not taught you yet, let me tell you… Relationships will fizzle when you settle for less than a compatible mate.
If you want a drama-free mate, you must let go of the drama in your own life. Some women think that being married to some man, even if it’s not the right man, is better than not being married at all. Money and status can buy material things, but not true love and happiness. Is a miserable marriage really worth it?
Ladies, while so many singles are waiting to get married, too many married people are wishing they were single again. It’s true. Wouldn’t it be a tragedy to rush and get married, then feel alone or wish you were single again because you lack needed and expected affection and support from your husband? Do not let that be your story.
I hope this wisdom for the single and seeking helps, comforts and encourages you while you wait for your future mate! For more wisdom, order Love Without The Drama today!
“The Motivator” Lynetta Jordan refreshes hearts, motivates minds and inspires the world one soul at a time! Lynetta is the author of the empowering, “love”changing book, Love Without The Drama: Why Settle When Relationships Can Sizzle?
A former college queen, Lynetta is the founder of Lynetta Jordan Ministries, National Radio Host of the “Love Talk” and “Love Notes” features on the Rejoice Musical SoulFood Network, entrepreneur captivating motivational speaker and extraordinary inspirational writer and speaker. Invite Lynetta to present “Love Without The Drama” LIVE at your conferences, churches, book clubs, TV show or other event at Author@LoveWithoutTheDrama.com or 1-888-LYNETTA.
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