Out of the millions of married couples around the world, many of them don’t have children. They want to, but they don’t feel the need to right now or they aren’t financially stable enough to support a child. They might also not be mentally prepared for it—bringing in a new life into the world is a blessing, but taking care of the child can be equal parts stressful and joyful.
To help you decide whether you’re ready to start a family with your partner, here are five points that scream “I’m ready.”
You Feel Mature Enough to Make That Decision
At some point in our lives, we all make that decision to not drink, to not smoke and to not stay at an all-night party. These are clear signs that you’re moving on from that lifestyle because you either have commitments or responsibilities to take care of. If you feel that you’re gaining a new level of maturity, then you’re qualified to make the decision of having a child or not.
Sacrificing your own enjoyment isn’t always the most fun route to take, but when you have a child you’ll have to make sacrifices all the time for your child. Since you’re mature enough to take care of yourself, you’ll also be mature enough to take care of your child and make smart decisions on how to ensure they are being cared for.
You Are Financially Stable
Money is important to raising a child. You can claim benefits to help with costs, but it’s always a good idea to have a stable income with your partner so that you can pay for school costs, hospital fees, clothing and other items for your child.
Financial Planning for Families is available if you want some external assistance, but it’s generally a good idea for you and your partner to have stable jobs before conceiving a child.
You Are in a Stable Relationship
It’s normal to have a slight tinge of doubt just before the big day, but as you’re walking down the aisle and exchange rings, an invisible bond is formed that seals the deal and secures you in a relationship with your partner.
Unfortunately, many people take that bond for granted and couldn’t care less about divorcing or breaking that relationship. Fortunately, it doesn’t take long to realize you’re in a fairytale relationship that you need to snap out of. But assuming that you are in a stable relationship with your partner, it’s a good sign that you are both responsible and mature enough to handle raising a child.
You Don’t Feel Pressured to Start a Family
It’s often overlooked, but many people start a family because they are being pressured by their parents, partners or other factors. If you are in this situation, then you absolutely must not start a family. Peer pressure forces us to do stupid things such as drinking more than we can handle, and that exact same concept applies to having a family.
As soon as you don’t feel pressured to start a family, you can start to consider if you actually want to have children with your partner or not. Don’t succumb to pressure and have children because someone is nagging you or coaxing you into doing it. The choice is in your hands and you have the right to say no.