It’s extremely easy to see the shortcomings and faults of those we interact with on a daily basis. It might be our family members or friends, or perhaps a close co-worker. No matter how much we dislike it, we all criticize, moan and complain about people. It seems to be the human condition. You can stop yourself from doing this, but it will take a concerted effort to ‘mind your own business’ as it were. However, sometimes issues that you notice are more serious. You might try and help someone with them, but notice that despite your knowledge of their flaws, they can’t see it themselves. This leads to the time-honored adage ‘you can’t help someone who won’t help themselves.’
But it’s important to realize that this statement could also apply to you. If you’ve noticed that your family have tried to intervene in your actions and you’ve neglected to listen, or if you have a problem that’s fully affecting your life, or if you simply cannot live with the personal justifications any longer, you might want to consider the following changes:
The Hard Route
It can be very hard to do, but sometimes going cold turkey or finding an alternate mode of living is an essential thing to do. If gambling is your vice, it can work to have a relative call up those institutions and tell them you’re trying to get back on your feet, and to bar you from even entering the premises. It might be that you need to find a sober living home to disconnect you from your schedule completely and begin to learn another one, and methods to cope with your daily life in a new frame.
It can be worth heading down this hard route, because often the only thing to shake you out of apathy will be a swift push in this direction. Sometimes you need to give yourself absolutely no option but to heal and to put your full energy behind it. This might even mean cutting out toxic friends, shifting your entire living situation, or finding work and building a new identity for yourself. The hard route is difficult, but often the most effective.
Joining groups to help you is essential. Surrounding yourself with supportive people who understand the struggle can limit the problem in your mind, and help you realize that you’re in no way the only person who is struggling with this. You can be certain that if there’s a problem to be encountered by a person, it has already been experienced many, many times. Joining groups to express your worries and fears, and to also celebrate your success can absolutely help in the most profound sense.
Understanding Your Mindset
Everything is mindset, but when you’re being corrupted by bad behaviors, it’s easy to let your harder thoughts push you around. When you become familiar with the routine and processes behind your vice, you’ll begin to learn methods to detach from them.
With these tips, helping yourself is sure to be a positive step in the right direction.