Whether you had been together for four weeks or four years, breakups are never easy. Breakups can leave you feeling utterly and completely heartbroken, lost, and also, bad about yourself. While there is no magic remedy for fixing a broken heart and aching soul. There are simple things that you can do to make sure that you deal with things in the right way.
Regardless of whether you initiated the split or it was your partner, you are entitled to feel sad. No matter what’s happened, don’t blame yourself. If he broke up with you, it was for a reason. If you broke up with him, there would have been something that sparked it – even if you can’t think of it now.
To help ensure that you deal with your breakup in the best possible way, here are a few useful tips to take note of:
Don’t suppress your feelings
However you are feeling about what’s happened, don’t bottle it up. If you avoid talking about your feelings, you will only make things worse for yourself. Even if it’s just asking your friends, “How can I get my ex-boyfriend back?”, it doesn’t matter; you need to talk things out.
After a breakup, it’s normal to want to get your ex back, even if it was you who wanted to break up. However, before you go down this route, you need to think about whether this is what you actually want, or if it’s just because you miss him. The best way to work through these feelings is to talk them through with your friends or family.
Take care of yourself
Don’t make the mistake of going on a diet after a break up as it’s too easy to go too far with it. Instead, make an effort to take care of yourself by eating the right foods and exercising regularly.
After a break up we tend to spend a lot of time feeling bad about ourselves, sitting around moping. Exercise is good as it gets you out of the house, and will also help to boost your mood.
If you don’t regularly exercise, now is the time to start. Take up running – running and jogging are incredibly therapeutic, so are ideal for helping you to cope with things. Yoga is also a great activity to do, as it’s not only good for your body but also your mental health.
Have a laugh
You might be feeling sad, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a laugh with your friends. Go out for brunch, have a girlie spa day, go on a shopping spree – spend time with your closest friends and have a laugh.
If you aren’t ready to go out yet, give your house a clean – when we’re down we often let our homes get messy and invite the girls over. Have a movie and wine night, spend the evening watching all your favourite comedies, while having a laugh with the girls.
Break-ups are hard; there are no two ways about it. However, it’s crucial that you deal with things in the right way.